Girl, Enter Your Forties Roaring: 10 Empowering Ways to Own It!

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Jan 24
6 min read

Updated: Mar 20

In my twenties, I couldn't imagine ever being forty. It was unthinkable. Most of our moms were in their forties when we were in our twenties. Forty is for old people; we'd revolt. Yet, we all get to that mythical dystopia someday. For me, that someday is now. But it doesn't have to be all doom and gloom.

Sure, there are the sneaky hormonal fluctuations, pesky weight gain, downright unnerving anxiety, and feeling misunderstood and unheard. It's a hilly road we women are destined to travel, albeit with an aching back and sleep-deprived - all thanks to a little thing called evolution, during which we (hopefully) become better, more sophisticated versions of ourselves. Sure, we age, and our mortal bodies deteriorate the older we get. It's simple biology, right? Now try saying that to a forty-year-old woman without risking a slap across your supple, wrinkle-free face.

Like I said, it's not all doom and gloom. Catching a glimpse of ourselves in the mirror or stepping onto a scale shouldn't send our mood into a tailspin. On the contrary, I believe reaching this milestone age is a blessing—the "sweet spot," I like to call it. Getting wiser but not quite matured; shimmering but not yet in our golden years; bossing but not quite seniors. Those of us with kids get to share the joy of them falling in love for the first time, watch them drive their first car, go off to university, and share in so many more beautiful firsts and life moments.

Not only do you still have a full life to live after entering your fortieth decade, but for those of us who haven't already, there is still time to start adopting healthier habits like exercising, making better dietary choices, and going for that physical and mental overhaul we've been putting off for so long. If we've gone off the track a little, our forties is a sober reminder that although time is fleeting and life is brutal, there is still time.

Remember that you are not going through whatever it is you are going through alone. No woman is an island, and finding your community, your people, will no doubt help you appreciate and marvel at this new chapter.

Here are 10 Ways To Thrive In Your Forties:

Connect

Ultimately, connection is the essence of humanity and essential to our the overall wellbeing. As we age and life becomes busier, staying connected and maintaining relationships becomes more challenging. Ironically this may be the time when we need that connection so much more. Therefore, it's important to make an intentional effort to find our community. Strategies for fostering connections: joining a women's support group or Meetup and start building meaningful relationships.